The value you think you have determines your perception of your own worth. People believe that their value is based on their accomplishments and all they have achieved. But self-worth shouldn’t be measured in external things but in who you are. There is nothing you need to do or be to be worthy. You are worthy because you exist, because you are yourself.
Feeling worthy is connected with knowing who you are and owning your gifts and talents. Nobody can take your worth away except yourself. What you think about yourself determines your importance, independently of what others believe you are capable of or what you can have or do.
We often seek approval or validation from others to create an opinion about ourselves. We struggle to believe that we are worthy because we rely on what others think, or on the rules society imposes, more than on what we feel about ourselves. We look outside to see if we fit and how valuable we are. If others have more, we are less. If we have more, it seems we are doing ok.
When you compare yourself with others, you may think you are less than them or not good enough. The root cause of this can be a lack of acceptance of who you are. Maybe you are judging yourself so hard because of the expectations you have set. The non-accomplished plans can make you feel that you haven’t arrived at the point you wanted to be in life. As a result, you are less than you wanted to be, which provokes enormous suffering.
Lack of money, education, status, relationships, or opportunities doesn’t make you less worthy. But what you think about yourself and your shortcomings affects your perception of your worth. If you don’t know who you really are and what you bring to the world with your presence, it will be difficult for you to understand how valuable you are. The cultivation of appreciation for yourself, just for who you are, will make it easier to understand your worth as a being.
Maybe you are thinking, “What am I worthy of?” You are worthy of Love, abundance, freedom, opportunities, and much more. You are worthy of enjoying life. We try to earn Love and worthiness by giving. The less worthy we feel, the more we focus on giving. There has to be a balance between giving and receiving.
Feeling worthy means opening your doors to receive what you deserve, what you feel can be yours. Get ready for that. Focus on welcoming and celebrating what you feel worthy of. Connect with what is already yours. Stop trying so hard to make things happen. Recognize your value. There is nothing to do, nothing to work on, nothing to wait for. The only necessary thing is being yourself. That’s enough. Relax.
“There is nothing so rewarding as to make people realize that they are
worthwhile in this world”
Every experience you have during your day is an opportunity to choose Love. How you decide to act in every moment matters. Don’t look at the big occasions; look at the small moments in your life when you react in anger, or lose your temper, when someone says or does something that triggers an instant reaction within you. When you find yourself in one of these moments, ask yourself: why am I reacting this way now?
The answer might be that you are taking what the other person is saying or doing personally. But what people do is because of themselves, not because of you. Their acts or interactions with you show who they are and what they think, and have nothing to do with who you are. But throughout your life, you may have learned to take things personally and interpret the interactions with others as “things people do to me.” But they don’t really do anything to you, they do it to themselves.
The other day I had an uncomfortable interaction with the person at the security desk in my building. She told me something in a bad tone; she was rude. It was late, and I was tired. My answer to her was to question why I had to do what she was asking me to. I used the same bad tone she had used to talk to me. She triggered something within me. But none of that matters. I missed an opportunity to choose Love, to answer calmly and politely to her, in a loving way. I forgot that her behavior was all about her, her bad mood, or maybe her way of being. It had nothing to do with me.
Don’t look at what others do; look at what you feel when others do something. Remember that nobody is able to make you think or feel anything; only you can. Then take the time to observe what you think and feel in that moment, and ask yourself: Why am I feeling this now? It may feel challenging to do at the moment when you are in the experience, but try anyway or do it later. Become aware of what is happening within you.
When you observe yourself and become aware of your reactions without blaming others, you discover valuable things about yourself, like patterns of thought and behavior. Maybe they have always been there, but you never saw them before. You may remember similar situations you lived in the past where you were triggered in the same way, or realize that the relationship with certain kinds of people has always been challenging for you.
When I asked myself why I reacted in my encounter with the security person, I noticed that it had something to do with my opinion about authority figures and the abuse of power. I also saw that I felt “less than” when she treated me in a way I considered disrespectful. It was not about her; it was about me and how I see the world and myself. She touched many things within me. But they are not reasons for not choosing peace, Love, and harmony no matter what her way of being was.
Love is a state of being, not something you decide to share with some people and not with others. You are Love, and you can show it everywhere you go, at the supermarket, at work, in the post office, gym, or with your family and friends. Decide not to take things personally; do it because you Love yourself. Allow others to make their own choices. It is not your task to judge them.
If you want more Love in the world, start bringing more Love into your life and those around you. Don’t ask others to be loving. Bring the Love yourself. You can say what you want to say, declare what you consider unacceptable, or set up boundaries. But do it without answering aggression with aggression, anger with anger, and unkindness with unkindness.
The world we live in can be transformed if you decide to transform yourself. We are always waiting for things to change, but you are the change agent. In every moment of your life, you have a choice; always choose Love. The kind of Love that includes peace, kindness, harmony, balance, awareness, understanding, patience, and forgiveness. Choose Love in action.
"The people who inspire me most are those who are willing to see the world from a loving perspective. People who perceive obstacles as opportunities and problems as
spiritual assignments. People who choose Love"
We all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are. We wish to establish relationships that are easy and bring amazing Love and happiness to our lives. But many times, we have problems in our relationships, and we suffer. Love becomes a complicated matter. How can we learn to Love better? By loving. Loving more and more.
Love starts within yourself. The greatest Love of all, is the Love you have for yourself. The more Self-Love you cultivate, the more Love you will generate and can share with others. When you are in a relationship, you share the Love that you already have. Love is not an exchange: you give me your Love, and I give you mine. It becomes something greater when you don’t put limits or conditions on your Love, and you Love freely and abundantly.
Love Yourself to avoid complications in relationships. When problems arise, it may seem difficult not to take things personally in your relationships. But the way the other person acts only demonstrates who they are, not the amount of Love of which you are worthy. It is easy to interpret what others do to you and the pain you receive as: “I don’t deserve their Love,” “There is something wrong with me,” or “I am not good enough to be loved.” The more you Love yourself, the better you will avoid relationships where there is conflict and power struggles, judgments, the need to control, or drama.
Love brings out the best in yourself. When you establish a relationship of any kind, remember that one of the purposes of relationships is that we are together to grow together. There are relationships that bring out the best of who you are. Just because you are with that person, you become a better you. These are the ones you should cultivate. You don’t have to share the same opinions about everything, but you need to respect the other person and give them enough room to grow. Look for what unites you, and don’t focus on your differences and what separates you.
Love is not about solving someone else’s life. When you Love someone, you may feel the temptation of helping the other person “too much,” trying to fix their problems, saving them from their challenges, or sacrificing yourself for their wellbeing. When you do that, you are not really loving the other person; you may be controlling them. You take away their opportunities to change, grow and learn in their own way, or make their decisions.
To be real, Love has to be free. It cannot be managed or strategized. It has to flow. Pay attention to yourself to discover patterns of thought or behavior that you may not have realized. For example, when you fear being abandoned, this fear can be triggered unexpectedly. If you are afraid of losing Love, you may change your behavior to be sure you please the other person and that the relationship continues. What you don’t realize is that you stop being yourself. You disappear and give your power away to be sure the other person stays in the relationship, because to receive their Love is more important than yourself. You are not free anymore; you are attached to a Love you don’t want to lose.
Love is a decision you make daily. It is not a passing feeling. It is a state of being. You decide to Love. You can Love others in spite of who they are because it is your decision. You decide with whom you share your Love. You can Love the entire Universe and everything on it, including its oceans, trees, and animals, or just your loved ones. It is up to you. The more Love you share, the more you will receive. It multiplies. The Love you give will always return to you. Love is always within YOU.
"We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess,
it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs
and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love"
Thich Nhat Hanh
There are moments in life where you have to find the necessary strength to go through tough situations and challenges in your life. It may feel impossible to overcome something when you don’t have the energy for it, or you feel like a failure and defeated. If many things accumulate, it may seem too much for you to work it all out, and you may want to give up. We all have experienced times of crisis, faced health or relationship problems, lost someone we loved, had financial difficulties, or suffered through other major events, such as a pandemic.
In those moments, you may think that everything is complicated, that life is against you, or that you are having a streak of bad luck. It is common for us to blame the circumstances, other people, or try to run away from problems. I invite you to face these times with understanding and kindness towards yourself. You are what matters the most! Don’t judge yourself for what you are going through, don’t get stuck there. You need to support yourself when all gets dark, uncomfortable, or scary. You deserve your own Love. The better you treat yourself in difficult moments, the more energy you will have to overcome them.
The situation you are in is not your fault. Don’t look at yourself as the guilty party. But you are the one that can transform this situation. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself. It means you need to execute your response-ability. You are capable of choosing how to respond. You won’t be able to change what is happening, but you can answer life and the circumstances you are in the way you want. This is your life, and it is for you to decide how to live it.
There is always something you can do while living thru this stage of your life in which you are suffering. The first is accepting what is happening and having the self-honesty to see it. Look at it from a non-judgmental perspective. You cannot resolve a situation by becoming your own enemy, criticizing yourself for where you are or is not working in your life. Self-forgiveness can help you release those things in the past that you want to let go of, and set yourself free to build the life you want.
Stop telling yourself that you are not capable or good enough to overcome something, and empower yourself instead. Build resilience. Observe the moment and yourself mindfully. This situation might be an opportunity to change a belief or understand your feelings by being with them. Maybe you will discover that you are stronger than you imagine. Remember other challenges you overcame and how you felt about yourself when it happened. Remember that you are always supported by the Universe, even when you feel alone or lost. You are loved as you are.
Ask yourself how you can look differently at your life situation, how you can adopt a different perspective of what is happening. It will allow you to make a shift. Don’t focus only on where you are, and the present problem or pain. Look for what will come after what is happening now. Connect with the life you want to build from now on and with a beautiful future ahead. There is a new reality waiting for you, and you need to get there. You can get there at your own pace. Don’t rush or pressure yourself. Do it for yourself. You can transform your life. I believe in you, and you should too.
“It’s part of life to have obstacles. It’s about overcoming obstacles;
that’s the key to happiness”
Love is the powerful force that connects all of us, and all that exists. It is the reason for our existence and the energy that transforms us. How can it be more present in our lives? Love is an energy you can tap. It is not a passing feeling. It is an option you have to choose. Demonstrate your Love with your actions. Choose to respond to your life experiences with Love. Strong Love, true Love, Love with power, Love that stays present, is compassionate, and never gives up.
You can start by adding more Love to the relationship with yourself. Appreciate who you are. Give yourself more hugs. The more connected you are with Love, the better you will be able to share it with those around you in the form of kindness, peacefulness, smiles, and other acts of Love. Every little Love gesture counts and adds to the total. Don’t miss any opportunity to be more loving and less critical with yourself.
You can connect with the Love and experience it inside yourself as frequently as you want. It takes just a couple of minutes, and it is very rewarding. You can do this by thinking of someone you Love deeply, like your children or pet, anyone who allows you to feel Love instantly. You can also remember a loving moment you shared with someone. Be there, feel it, dive into it. Stay there enjoying the moment. Just focus on Love.
If there is something you want to change, such as a relationship that is not working, or the fact that people starve, don’t get angry, frustrated, or disappointed by the situation. Instead, add more Love into it by setting the intention that it can be resolved, that we can agree and take action to find a solution. Send your Love energetically, don’t ignore the situation. Trust that Love can affect and change it. Your Love can transform the world. This is how powerful Love is. The way you live and lead with Love will touch others, creating a more loving world.
Tune into the Love that exists. There is Love around you. If you pay attention, you will see it and feel it. A family sharing a meal, a kid’s hug to a parent, a couple’s kiss of Love, a big smile someone offers you in a shop, the waiter that takes care of you lovingly in a restaurant, a colleague that provides a helping hand, a friend’s invitation for dinner...
Look around and you will see a different world, one where Love is present and alive. A planet where Love exists and heals the wounds we have. Becoming more loving every day is up to you. Nothing has to change for you to do it. It all depends on you. Don’t wait until Love appears in your life; show your Love and more Love will arrive into your life.
"Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier."
For some people, it is easier to give than to receive. We receive many instructions about how important it is to give during our education and in our culture. Good people Love and give to others is a message imprinted in our minds. We have many opportunities for giving, for being there when others need us, volunteering, checking on others, helping not only those you Love but everyone. And you get something out of it as well; it makes you feel great. It is so rewarding to serve others, to give, to offer what you have.
Maybe nobody has explained to you that it is equally important to receive gracefully. We cannot only emphasize giving and forget the other end. Never put conditions to the Love you receive. Accept it with an open heart and be grateful for it. If something arrives to you it is because you deserve it. Be ready to receive without feeling that you have to give something in return. It is time to receive!
You cannot receive what you don’t believe can be yours. Feeling unworthy of something guarantees that you cannot have it, and you may even reject it. Someone may offer you their Love and care, but you cannot accept or feel it because you don’t think you deserve it. Love is real when there is a flow of giving and receiving, when balance exists. We know how to Love, it is natural, but we often put limits to the Love we receive from others, stopping it from getting to us.
You are a precious gift. Your uniqueness makes you special. Share yourself. Give yourself to others. Show the world who you are. Express your gifts. Don’t hide thinking that you are not good enough to be seen for who you are. You are not just one more human being. There is only one like you. Share your Love, smile, hugs, laughter, conversation, insights, compassion, your sense of humor. Give all of who you are and see what comes back to you.
We also have to learn how to give to ourselves. We, inadvertently, may put ourselves last on our list. We keep giving until we are depleted. This Love, care, time, and attention you give to others, turn it in on yourself. Do it because you Love yourself. You deserve your own Love. You need the understanding and nurturing you offer to everyone. Devote time to know what you need and give it to you.
I lost myself in relationships where I thought I had to give and give more to keep the relationship alive. I abandoned myself to nurture others. Now I know that it doesn’t work to give in this way. There has to be balance. There are moments to give, and it is so pleasurable to do it. But Love is not sacrificing. We need to replenish our batteries before they are empty, or we won’t be able to continue giving. In Love, we support others, but we need to support ourselves and be supported as well. Live and give Love, and open yourself to receiving it.
"He had always known that to truly receive, you had to give. Now he understood the equal truth: that to be able to give with a whole heart you had to be prepared to receive in turn”
Have you asked yourself what stops you from creating the life you would Love to live? Maybe you have felt that on one side you have your dreams and desires, and on the other, there seems to be a force that holds you back from achieving them. There may be many different reasons why your life doesn’t look the way you want, but you are the most important one.
Are you saying no to opportunities and changes that can improve your life? Maybe you do it unconsciously because you are afraid or don’t feel ready for a challenge. Perhaps because the routine in your life has taken over, you don’t look for anything different and have accommodated to what every day brings.
You are a powerful being and a creator. I want to invite you to connect with your inner courage, to recover your old dreams, to find the necessary confidence to live life on your own terms. I know you can do it! Start today. Just a small step can give you the energy you need to continue. Do something that will take you nearer to where you want to be.
Maybe you have stopped believing in yourself. It happens when one feels like a failure, when you lose your confidence, when a challenge seems too big. Because of the accumulation of life situations we encounter, you may have adopted the idea that you cannot change your life, that you are not capable. Find out what you think of yourself and transform what doesn’t serve you.
A long time ago, you may have arrived at certain conclusions about who you are, and you have even forgotten the reason you have these opinions. But who told you they are true? It is an opinion, and it can be changed. As a consequence of these beliefs, you may take actions that go against yourself. For example, constantly procrastinating, starting something and giving up, or blaming the circumstances or other people.
It is important to discover the beliefs that you have about yourself. Words you heard in the past or during your childhood, from any of the authority figures important for you, may still be totally present. They can influence the ideas that you have about what you can or cannot do. Identify and let them go. They are stories of the past. If you change your ideas about yourself, you will change the future you create.
Look at the conversations you have in your mind and see if there is enough appreciation for who you are. You are an amazing being. Allow yourself to shine. Can you see yourself as an important person that deserves happiness and fulfillment? I am sure you can. You need to start looking at yourself with more Love, care, and kindness, through compassionate eyes.
What other people think about you it is not your business. You can release others’ opinions about you. Give yourself permission to be you. Discover how amazing you are. Go inside and see all the beauty and Love within. Don’t look only at your flaws and wounds. Focus on your worth as your birthright. It is constant. You can never lose it. It is yours independently of your accomplishments in life. You are free to be. This is your life. It is yours to make.
“Lead a life of your own design, on your own terms. Not one that others
or the environment have scripted for you”
Love is always available. It never disappears or hides. You may forget that it is waiting for you to connect with, and that it is always around you, even when you don't consciously feel it. I'm not just talking about romantic Love, but Love for everything that exists. If you want to, you can have a heart-based connection with the world. You can focus on expanding your Love, compassion, and kindness. This will provoke an instant shift in the planet's energy, not only on you and those with whom you share your life.
It seems that Love resides in your heart, the center of your power and existence. Your energetic center and source of vital energy. But Love, as an energy, can be everywhere simultaneously and travels without boundaries or any means of transportation. You can send Love to anyone you want, and the only thing you need is your intention. It will arrive safely and instantly, and it will be received by the person or group of people you have sent it to. We feel Love and all human emotions and deep sensations in that area of our body we call the heart. It helps to know that there is a physical location where you can go to connect with the Love you feel.
You can use this simple practice whenever you want to connect with Love. Put your hand in your heart and feel the Love inside of yourself. It is a force that resides within you. Be still in your heart. Allow Love to expand around your whole body, touching every particle of it. Now you are full of Love. Imagine that Love surrounds you as well, like a bubble. Imagine that your heart has doors, and they open up, allowing your Love to go out, filling the room where you are and everything it touches. And finally, your Love travels out of your home and into the world, and it is shared with everyone and everything.
It is good for you to connect with Love regularly. It is important to maintain our hearts open, since certain events or disappointments can make us feel not loved or that our heart is broken. Sometimes we may feel that our heart is closed. That we cannot share and receive Love. We may feel disconnected from others, alone, or flooded by sadness. It is as if the point of connection were broken, and we cannot open our heart to Love again. We may be afraid of suffering and decide to ignore Love, but it doesn't work.
Love will knock at your door again and again. You cannot live without it, because it is the reason why you are alive. It is what makes life worth living. It is the energy that connects us all. Choose to bring more Love to every encounter you have. Love without a reason. Love freely. Love because you want to. Love is more than a passing feeling or an intense emotion. It can be your state of being if you decide to make it so.
"Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do"
We experience many things every day. We accumulate thoughts and feelings, and frequently we don’t invest time in understanding and letting them go. We live fast. There is no time for going inwards. Life continues. This is the way we act until we enter into a crisis, and we have to stop. It can happen in the form of an accident, illness, loss, financial problem, a relationship issue, or disconnection from ourselves.
If you don’t stop, life will stop you. It is necessary to devote time to heal your experiences, all of them. To process what happened to you. To find a way to release or forgive a situation or event. It is not a good idea to suppress what you feel, ignore it, or blame others for the situations you are involved in.
You are here to learn something from every little thing that happens to you. Don’t ruminate over a problem or issue; take what you have learned with you and continue living. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in the same patterns or ways of reacting to life. Observe yourself.
When your body gives you signs of discomfort, unexpected pain, or lack of energy, don’t wait until you feel sick or in pain. Pause, and take a break. Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to do nothing for some hours. Find the time to heal now.
Listen to what your body is trying to tell you. Don’t pressure yourself to be well. Just be with what is happening. Every illness has a deep meaning at a soul level. Be on the side of your body and Love it, instead of thinking about why it is not working properly. Your body wants to be healthy. What can you do to help? Or what can you stop doing to help your body return to wellbeing?
Time is the key element. I am not talking about time in hours and days, but more about an internal time where you listen to what is happening inside you. We ask others how they are very frequently, why not do the same with ourselves. Check in with yourself. Not in a judgmental way.
Find time to be with yourself, your wounds, your incomplete business, your unhealed relationships, or whatever you are feeling right now. We don’t allow ourselves enough time to charge batteries, to reconnect with ourselves and our inner world. We want to continue with our lives immediately, but things are resolved at the right time, not when we want.
Don’t take the easy path of getting busy and not having time to feel or release. It only will help you postpone the inevitable. Later on, you will have to confront what you abandoned along the way. All those things you have accumulated won’t disappear from your life just because you postpone dealing with them for long enough. They dissolve when you confront them and consciously decide to be with them, feel them, understand them, take responsibility for them, release them, forgive those involved, including yourself, and set yourself free to move on and start anew.
We want to resolve it all quickly. I know because I have been there as well. I do many things, and ask and ask more of myself until I realize that I have forgotten to cultivate my inner peace and how to feel good with myself. Don’t take your life, health, or relationships for granted. Give thanks for everything you have. Gratefulness is the secret of life. You have received the gift of life. Stop, feel, and live. And when the moment arrives, take the time to heal.
"Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you — all of the expectations, all of the beliefs — and becoming who you are"
Rachel Naomi Remen
We tend to look at ourselves with critical eyes. When we want to change any aspect of our lives or ourselves, we do it from a perspective of not being good enough, obligation, pressure, or because we dislike ourselves. Often, we are judgmental and very strict with ourselves, trying to change things by working harder, sacrificing more, and suffering.
I propose a different plan. Look at yourself with a sense of appreciation. Recognize your value. Observe yourself through loving eyes. Look at what is happening inside you. Just look without judgment, and try to understand who you are, what you think and feel, why you do or don’t do things, or what makes you react. Discover yourself.
We judge reality as well. Pay attention to how many times per day you complain when reality doesn’t fit with the concept you have of it, or things don’t go the way you want. Observe what makes you feel frustration or sadness, what things take you out of balance or put you in a bad mood.
Look at all this material with curiosity and understanding. Don’t be hard on yourself for being where you are or what you consider mistakes, flaws, imperfections, or faults. Be there, totally, without complaining or judging the world around or inside you.
Let’s suppose that you are trying to help someone who is having health problems. You know that they can do more to get better, and you would like this person to take responsibility for their health, but it is not what is happening.
You are supportive, patient, caring, and loving, until a moment when, unexpectedly, you explode for a little thing. At that moment, you tell this person that they have to change their behavior and put more effort into healing, that you are not going to witness this anymore. You speak to this person with an angry tone and are very distant from the Love you feel for her. Something happened within you.
If you look at yourself, you will see what triggered you, why you reacted and created a scene, how much emotion you have accumulated, your fear of losing this person you Love in action, the need to express your feelings, the frustration and powerlessness you have been hiding, and more. If you observe what is going on within you, you will learn so much about yourself and how you go through life. That’s the important thing here. To understand yourself a bit more every day.
If you react, get angry and lose your temper, it is okay. You are human. You can forgive yourself, release whatever happened, apologize if you want to, or let it go and continue with your life. But pay attention, because I can assure you that a similar event will happen to you very soon. If you have learned from the last experience, things may unfold differently. If not, you may end up reacting the same way. Life will give you many opportunities to learn and practice.
Suspending the need to react will offer you time to observe yourself and choose your response. Observe your thoughts rising, your emotions in full action, you showing to yourself what you are experiencing at that exact moment. Why is this important? Because if you can see it, and it is not the experience you want to have, you can do something about it. Once you are aware, you can decide. You have the power to choose.
You can take a breath and observe yourself in any situation you experience. This will allow you to become a different you. You may not have control over the feelings you experience, but you can always choose how you respond to life and its events.
An instant reaction may be something you have learned, a pattern. You can change It with a little bit of awareness and practice. But only if you realize that you have the power to do it. Only if you observe with compassion and understanding what is happening within you, catch yourself when you react, and choose to be more loving, understanding, and patient with yourself and others.
"The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness"
Being with yourself means spending time in your own company. It is becoming aware of what is happening within yourself, internally, and not only around yourself. You have a world inside that you may not have discovered yet. If you pay attention, you will distinguish more than thoughts in your mind or sensations in your body. You will be able to receive messages, guidance, helpful information, and become more aligned and balanced.
It is difficult to spend time with someone you dislike. Sometimes we run away from ourselves for this reason. If you don’t have a good opinion of yourself and your life, it may not sound like a good plan to hang out with yourself. A good beginning will be to look at yourself with new eyes and from a different perspective. It is necessary that you appreciate your gifts more than your flaws. Judgmental thoughts and not being able to forgive yourself can be the reason why it is difficult to feel connected to and good about yourself.
When you are with someone you Love, you pay attention to their likes and dislikes, needs and desires, what they say, and their body language. You look into the eyes of the person. You are present, totally there. But what do you do when you are with yourself? You forget you exist most of the time. You don’t take good care of yourself because other things or people are priorities, you don’t listen to your body and its messages or red flags, you ignore what your feelings are trying to say… In summary: You treat those you Love better than you treat yourself.
The poet Rumi asked in one of his works: do you make regular visits to yourself? It is an important question because we tend to forget that we need to be in a good relationship with ourselves. This is the most important relationship you will ever establish. These visits may consist of a silent walk, a time to reflect, journal or write, meditate, or ask yourself questions. The activity doesn’t really matter, it is about devoting time to you and your inner sacred center or essence.
In recent studies, scientists have detected that most of the time we are not present where we are. Our mind wanders. It is the way it is. But what you have to know is that we can train the mind to wander less and be more present in the activity or moment where we are now. It doesn’t require extensive training, just to pay attention, more at the beginning, until you know how to be more in the present than in the past or future. It is easier than you think, and the benefits of being with yourself in the present are enormous.
I invite you to try. Don’t waste more time. You are invited to a special party. It is called Me and I. You are the only one invited. It is an opportunity to know yourself better. You are going to have a great time if you want to. Drop any expectations. Go there with an open heart and a Love Letter written to yourself. You can’t miss this opportunity of being intimate with yourself. Love yourself for no reason. You deserve your Love. Don’t look at what is missing or what you would like to be. Focus on becoming just you. Appreciate what you have and who you are now. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. I am sure you are unique, and there is only one like you. I Love you as you are.
"Sometimes you just have to turn off the lights, sit in the dark,
and see what happens inside of you"
We are the ones that should recognize our value, gifts, talents, and who we are, but we tend to look for recognition and a pat on the back from others. If you only consider yourself important when someone tells you that you are, or when you have accomplished what you wanted, or overcome a challenge, something is missing.
You need to be your number one fan, your cheerleader, your best friend. You have to take care of yourself as if you were a child who needs your support. Take care of yourself, be kind and see all the good things you bring to the world daily. Yes, you do bring things to the world, even if you are unaware of it.
It is challenging to have a good relationship with yourself if you suffer from self-pressure and stress yourself to perform all your tasks perfectly. It is ok to do your best. Don’t be so strict and difficult with yourself! Embody fierce compassion towards yourself instead. You are not here to be perfect or to do things. You were created to be you.
Appreciate yourself just because you exist. Your creation was a divine act. Life is a gift you can never take for granted. Look for little moments to remind yourself: Wow! I am alive. I exist. Life has been given to me. Connect with everything around you. Look at the sky, the clouds, the trees you see through the window of your home or office or while you walk in the street, and remind yourself that life is a miracle.
Every baby step you take towards any of your dreams should be celebrated. Life is a collection of moments, a continuous present. Don’t wait until you finish a task or accomplish something. Look at the step-by-step process as a source of joy. Be sure you enjoy life. Try not to go on autopilot and don’t allow days to go by, waiting for something better to arrive. Live now! Be content with what is, start where you are.
Celebrate life. You can create new circumstances at any moment. Your life can change for good in the next instant. You don’t have to live the same life day after day. Ask yourself questions. What things would you like to change? What attachments don’t allow you to move forward? What relationships do you want to strengthen or abandon? What are you afraid of?
Ask for help. Ask what you need from the Universe. Trust yourself and your capabilities to be a co-creator of your life. Whatever you want exists out there. Do you want more Love? Abundance? Time? Health? Everything is waiting for you in the field of opportunities and it is available for you. Never deny yourself what is your birthright. Live to the fullest.
There is no need for a crisis or facing an illness to realize that you matter and your happiness is essential. You exist for a reason. You and only you can be yourself. Whatever you decide to do with your life will affect all that exists on Earth and the Universe. We are all connected and influence each other energetically. You are not alone. We are all One.
“You are wonderful. Valuable. Worthwhile. Lovable. Not because others think so.
Self-worth comes from only one place: self”
We as mortals think that all is over when someone passes away, but it is not the truth. You are eternal, and your Love is eternal as well. What connects us with the rest of the world is the energy that we call Love. And Love never disappears, even when the other person is not present in your life in bone and flesh.
We connect not only in families and through Love bonds in the flesh, but in Soul families and Soul connections, as Soul Mates do lifetime after lifetime. I have researched the journey of the souls, I have been trained by Brian Weiss in past life regression therapy, and I have studied my own journey as a soul. I can tell you that no matter where you are, here or in a different realm, Love connects you with your loved ones.
My heart is aching today. My father-in-law passed away in India, being near 100 years old. He is in a place where having a body is not necessary. He is returning to the essence of Love. He is meeting with his loved ones. Not in the flesh, as a human being, just as a being, energetically. We don’t have a total understanding of what happens when we “die.” I write it in brackets because there is not such a thing as death. It is just a transition to a different realm. A journey to a better place.
Those who remain on Earth, grieving their lost ones, suffer a lot. We had a year of losses and death on Earth. All seems to be collapsing around us, but I say NO. I invite you to embrace life and to keep loving, even when loss happens, even when you are in pain. Those who have left Earth look at you from other realms hoping you keep living your life to the fullest.
There is no separation between one world and another. You don’t need a medium to communicate with the deceased. You can do it yourself because the line that connects you is the Love you shared. Grieve, cry, get mad if you want to, but don’t get stuck in pain. Those who left Earth want the best for you. A loved one has never abandoned you. It is a human illusion. You are still all together, but not in the same way. They take care of you even from a distance, from a different realm.
Ask your loved ones, those you have lost, for a sign, tell them to visit you in your dreams, have a conversation (in your imagination if you want) with them, or write a Love Letter to them if you have unsaid thoughts to declare. You can be reunited through Love. You will always be together in your heart because Love is eternal.
If you want to work privately with me, call me at +1-646-204-4535 (WhatsApp), or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
“When we understand the illusory nature of life and the profound power of eternal love, which enables us to create miracles and experience the presence of our deceased loved ones,
we find ourselves living with joy, hope and peace.”
Susan Barbara Apollon
I have realized that the primary cause of suffering is that we accumulate unresolved issues, rejected feelings, problems that we never overcame, misunderstandings with others, or pain from relationships that didn’t work out. We carry all of that with us. Most people don’t know how to let go, release or forgive; but these concepts allow us to live more freely and happily.
If you are able to observe, mindfully, every one of your feelings when they appear, accepting them, by mindful observation, you will be in touch with what you feel. Just breathe and feel what you feel. You are not your fear, sadness, or despair. But the feeling takes you over and makes you feel one with it. But understand that its message has to be loud, or you won’t pay attention. When fear, anger, or anxiety appear, don’t fight them. Instead, say, hello fear! Or hello, anger! Why are you here?
If what we feel is unpleasant, we tend to reject the feeling. We want it to disappear; the sooner the better. We don’t take the time to feel it and be with it. If it lasts, we practice evasion. We run away from it, distracting ourselves with food, alcohol, watching TV, shopping, or getting busy in any other way. But the feeling won’t go away because it has not been felt. We just put it in a closet in our heart and try to forget that it is there, in stock.
But you can transform any feeling into something else. Get the message of the emotion, be with it, and take it to the next level. For example, when someone is mean to you, and you get angry because of it, you have two problems: the anger you received and the anger you feel now as a result. What if you take that anger and transform it into understanding about the person or situation?
Consider that maybe this person is full of anger that they don’t know how to release. What happened wasn’t personal. You just happened to be with that person when the anger hidden in the closet of their heart became too great and had to be released. Or maybe the person is in pain, sick, or very afraid, and they don’t know what to do with their feelings. Would you be more understanding if you knew the situation in their life that is causing the pain that created that state of anger? This way, you can transform anger into understanding.
Forgiveness is an unknown concept. Most people have the idea that in order to forgive you need to forget that certain events happened, accept the pain, and tell the person who hurt you ‘I forgive you’ because I am a good person and I shouldn’t hate you anymore. But this is not the forgiveness I am talking about. To forgive someone or something is to set yourself free from it. Since the moment you forgive yourself or others, you disconnect energetically from the event or situation. You have released it. It is that simple.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person. It is only about you. It is not about forgiving an event or suffering created by another person. The event is just an experience. You survived it, and now it is part of your story. It only matters in the present moment if you decide that it does. When you forgive, you don’t forget or condone. You choose to live freely in the present moment where you can create the life you desire, not in the past, where those events happened.
Letting go of something that has been part of your identity for a long time can be scary. If I have been a victim because something terrible happened to me and I have lived in anger, pain, or sadness for years, I may not know who I will be without that anger or despair. Maybe you are thinking, “How can I be happy when this happened to me?” You can, because you choose to.
The most devastating situation, the loss of a loved one, an illness, abuse, betrayal, poverty… is just that, a situation that created certain feelings. And they can be transformed. You can heal yourself from all of it. Let them go. Only you can do it. Are you ready? If you want to work privately with me on releasing and forgiving, send me an email at email@example.com.
"In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past,
but you will find yourself"
We often want something, we want it with all our hearts, and yet we deny it to ourselves. We operate from mental processes that prevent us from accepting what we ask for. It is something more common than you imagine, not realizing that with attitudes like "I'm not good enough," "it won't happen to me," "everyone gets it except me," "I don't deserve it," and similar thoughts, we lose what we could have and what we deserve.
All these thoughts or patterns are recorded in our mind, and fully functioning at an unconscious (and conscious) level. How does all this happen without us even realizing it? Sometimes it is a very subtle thing that we are not aware of and others a deeply rooted pattern. We can only receive what we think we deserve. It is as if I placed an order online, and when they are going to deliver it to my home, I do not open the door to the delivery man. I have asked for it, I have paid for it, it has cost me time and effort, but I cannot receive it because I do not think it is for me.
Let me explain it to you through an example. Suppose I want to live in a mansion, but I do not have money to buy and maintain it. In that case, I will not believe that I can achieve my dream, nor make it real, because I do not think I will be able to raise that amount of money. Perhaps I also believe that mansions are only for millionaires. All these thoughts and many more are embedded in my belief system. However, if I want to live in a four-bedroom apartment, and I live in a three-bedroom apartment, it is easier for me to imagine moving from my current apartment to a larger one, and paying for it through a salary increase or a successful investment. This is how your mind works. But it is not the way the Universe operates.
The Universe can guarantee you anything. It can, within divine timing, deliver to you any request that you make and that you are capable of receiving. Very often, that is the problem, your ability to receive. If it exceeds your level of imagination and confidence, if it is greater than what you think you can receive, if you think it will never be yours, if you do not understand that you are sabotaging your opportunities, you will not be able to receive it.
The Universe never judges your wishes; it only gets to work to make them come true once you have formulated them, really, with intention, specifically. For the Universe, manifesting for you a studio, a four-bedroom apartment, or a mansion, is the same. You are the one who has problems in this regard, limitations, lack of faith, or unbelief.
It is not about waiting with your arms crossed; you must collaborate in the process and follow the directions of the Universe, which will guide you step by step to where you want to go. In our example, you should see different apartments and look for the right one. Don't sit on the couch and wait. But the secret to success is to take it for granted the moment you request something.
For everything to work, you must feel that what you have asked for is already yours. Feeling it as yours is what tells the Universe that you are capable of receiving it, that you are willing, that you are serious. It is your energy and the power of your imagination that allows you to manifest. If you see yourself living in that four-bedroom apartment, you feel it, and you see all your belongings organized, the house decorated your own way, each of your children in a new room, that's how it will be. Everything is perfect just as you imagine it, and everything will be great in that beautiful apartment that is waiting for you, just as you want it, or even better.
The Universe has unlimited power that you, as a human being, are not capable of understanding. It will create the circumstances, the encounters, the way to get you not only the right apartment but the most favorable conditions and the money to pay for it, if you allow it to. That is the crucial element, allowing yourself to receive the help of that higher power that governs everything if you let it. It is a loving energy that is there to serve and help you in any situation. That will always deliver what you want. Let's start the process by desiring something. What do you want?
If you need assistance or more information on how to manifest your life's desires, reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
"Our subconscious minds have no sense of humor, play no jokes, and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives"
You have a system of inner guidance. A voice inside you that whispers to you the best way to proceed, what to pay attention to, what to avoid, and anything you need. This is a system you have installed since you were born that connects you to the Source, life, and yourself.
Your inner guidance, like a GPS, will tell you where you are, how to arrive where you want to go, what is the fastest route, the nicer but slower one, which paths to avoid, and where the roadblocks are. Support is always available to you. You wouldn’t think about not using your GPS to get somewhere faster and safer, but you may not be listening to your inner guidance. It is there to serve you, and it is just for you, customized.
We are all students on Earth, students of life. We have lessons to master in this incarnation, and we agreed, from a soul perspective, to assist others with their assignments. You help your kids with their homework, or a colleague with a project, right? I’m talking about the same but on a bigger scale. No matter what life throws at you, your guidance system is there in place to help you move forward, overcome, or figure out what is the best next step in your life or how to resolve things.
You are a drop in the ocean, and you, individually, have an essence, a soul, your uniqueness. But at the same time, you are the ocean itself. You have the power of the ocean in a drop of water. We are all part of the ocean, and we are not just drops of water left alone to figure it all out. The Universe (the ocean), with its immense intelligence, that we cannot even understand fully, is there for you; it has your back. Unfortunately, we sometimes refuse its help, thinking that we can do everything on our own.
Some people call it intuition or sixth sense. I call it inner guidance or connection. “Connection to what?”, you might be thinking—connection to the Source of information and Love. You are wired to be connected with a higher power, call it what you want, that will assist you in any way you need it to.
The connection allows you to feel supported, guided, and not alone. You are connected to it, but if you don’t get the signal, look at what might be standing between you and the Source. This is as simple as WIFI: when you connect to it you should have the fastest connection, but sometimes it doesn’t happen, but the system is in place and you only have to make yourself available to receive this guidance.
How can you listen to your inner guidance? I have several ideas on how you can do it, but I would prefer that you decide which one works best for you. You can start by connecting with what we call intuition. You can buy a good book about this topic, and practice. You can also follow the flow of signs and synchronicities the Universe is always sending you. Once you start paying attention to them, they come more frequently.
You can just pay attention and be in silence, meditate, or relax by listening to the waves or looking at the stars, and you will hear your inner guidance. You can play around with your dreams, and ask them to offer you guidance. If you want to go deeper, you can tap into the field of information of the Akashic Records and receive personalized information from the Masters of the Akashic Records.
If you need assistance or more information on how to connect with your inner guidance system, reach out to me at email@example.com
"I know what's best for me, and I want to do things my way. So, now I listen to my inner voice
and my heart -and that's how I make my decisions"
Laughing will improve your mood in general, but laughter has countless benefits. It strengthens your immune system and decreases the level of stress. When you laugh, your body releases endorphins, natural wellbeing and feel-good hormones. This is the reason why laughter will help you to reduce pain by lowering physical tension in your body. Laughter is a great medicine!
Life is worthwhile if there is joy and laughter in it. Maybe you don’t feel like laughing at the circumstances you are facing right now, but I invite you to do it anyway. Tell your body that there is a way to look at life from a more positive perspective and laugh; your body will tell your mind. Laughing is an excellent way to strengthen your resilience.
Smile is the beginning of laughter. Practice it more frequently. When I go for a walk, I gift everyone I meet with a smile. Most of the recipients of my smiles, smile back. Some people are looking at their phones, not at me, but I say hi and smile at them anyway. It is my decision to smile. I don’t do it expecting anything in return. But I can tell you that it changes my mood and affects every person that crosses my path.
Laugh at yourself. Don’t take yourself so seriously. I learned this from my husband, who takes life as it comes and can face anything by using humor. I am not wired like him, but I’ve learned. I try to look at the funny side of every situation. I ask myself in front of difficulty or a challenging moment that seems so important now, if I will look back on this and laugh in the future. Or even if I can laugh now. It is a good idea to surround yourself with positive and good-hearted people, that are always ready to remind you of the need to smile.
Seek out more humor and create opportunities to laugh by watching a comedy, TV show, or short video. I watch funny cat videos if I find myself down for whatever reason. The cats and my laughter cheer me up immediately. You can also remember a funny moment or incident. Think back at the hilarious moments, little things you have experienced, and smile again. Laughter therapy uses humor to improve your sense of wellbeing. You don’t need a funny event; you can laugh without such an experience, it is called simulated laughter, and it works. And who knows, it may even lead you to spontaneous laughter.
Laughter brings people together and improves your relationships by allowing you to find a way to have difficult conversations, for example. Laughter is contagious and a powerful way to transform our existence and make us happier. If you smile at three strangers today, and they make smile at three more, in twenty reiterations, the whole world will be smiling. It will be a wonderful Universe. Make a difference in the world, one smile at a time. Tomorrow I invite you to give smiles, and you will see your day changed.
"Too often, we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening
ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have
the potential to turn a life around"
All of us want to feel loved. Love is an important matter. We frequently talk about the heart and Love. We use lots of heart expressions, such as: "to have a change of heart," "be big-hearted," "broken-hearted," "with hope in the heart," "my heart bleeds." We understand that our heart, physically and emotionally speaking, plays an essential role in our lives.
Do you know how to connect with your heart? I thought I did. The other day I was doing a guided meditation and the messages that it included were: connect with your heart, feel into your heart, know it by heart, breathe life into your heart, awaken to Love... It should be easy to follow these instructions, but it wasn’t.
It is all about energy. I know it. It is about connecting with the energy of the heart. I know how to direct energy into my heart, but am I doing it? Am I connecting? I am so used to living in my head, in the world of thought, that it feels difficult to know how to connect with my heart.
I realized that my heart is numbed. That I crave Love, passion, excitement and fulfillment in life but, at the same time, I don’t allow myself to feel all my feelings. Especially the painful ones. I tell myself that I am ok. I do it unconsciously, as a protective mechanism because I don’t want to suffer. But how can I feel the most intense joy if I don’t allow myself to feel the most profound sadness or sorrow? When we are afraid of suffering, we close the doors of the heart. The emotions can’t flow. Love cannot go in or out. And we feel disconnected and alone.
Do you listen to your heart? From a medical perspective, we can listen to the physical heart better than ever. We have all sorts of technology to do it. We can monitor our heartbeat, measure our blood pressure and much more. But we don’t listen to what the heart has to say to us, or maybe we receive the messages and we ignore them. We trust rational thinking, our analytical mind. There is a different truth, the wisdom of the heart. Pay attention to the messages of your heart!
A healthy heart is always open and allows the blood in without discrimination. It accepts and lets in. We do the same when we open our heart and allow the flow of Love from ourselves or others to come to us. The physical heart never holds back. It continually releases the blood to allow the flow in the circulatory system. It is what should happen with healthy Love. It should be a flow; we give and we receive Love. We have to be open to Love in order to receive, and never withdraw or stop the flow of Love.
The heart keeps the life energy flowing, and Love keeps us alive. The heart is the center and the seat of Love. Let’s keep our sacred heart healthy, and allow it to be full of Love to share. It will shift your energy and the energy of those around you. I Love you from the bottom of my heart!
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched -
they must be felt with the heart"
We all want to be recognized, understood, and loved in our close relationships. It is crucial to invest energy in demonstrating to the person you are relating to that you really care about them. The most important gift you can offer a loved one is your undivided attention and a real interest in who they are. Don't take anyone for granted.
You don't need try to guess who the person you Love is in essence, or what is important in their world. Ask questions! Show your interest in discovering their dreams, what they wish and why, what excites and worries them, what makes them feel happy or frustrated. Ask them anything that helps you understand them and their universe; what is the reason they wake up every morning, what they appreciate. Listen carefully to the answers. Be totally there, just listening without reacting, not trying to figure out a response. Just take it in.
Once you have received all that the other person shared with you, you will realize that there were more than words. The body language, the tone of voice, how relaxed the person is, a smile, or the pauses or silence during the conversation, will tell you as much as the words this person chooses. Presence creates a real connection. To build a relationship, and to share, requires time.
Many people are afraid of showing their real selves. They feel that if someone sees them as they are, they will stop loving them. They wear a mask or try to please everyone they are in a relationship with to get the Love they want. It isn't easy to know someone who doesn't want to open up, talk about real feelings or desires, or that is not really connected with themselves.
When you really Love someone, your Love can provide a safe space and encourage this person to step out of their shell and be more authentically themselves. When you Love, do it unconditionally. Love the real person, flaws, stories, and past experiences included. Give the other the opportunity to express who they are.
Being together for a long time doesn't mean that you know a person. Perhaps it is the opposite. Maybe this person has evolved and has changed without you realizing it. Perhaps now you only know the image you have of your loved one. Maybe because you see each other every day or speak regularly, you think you have a good idea about who they are. Or maybe you never arrived at this deep place of sharing your most intimate side.
Building intimacy is an art, and it happens when presence, interest, and time are devoted to another being. If you want to experience true Love, connect from your heart with the one you have chosen to have in your life, this being that you consider special.
When you spend time with someone, share yourself, all of you, be vulnerable and authentic. Allow yourself to be seen. Rediscover each other every moment you spend together as if it were the first time you saw each other, and share your Love. Look into the eyes of the person you Love and tell yourself, "I want to know all about you, to Love you even more. I want to see the depth of your essence."
"The first duty of Love is to listen"
Love is always available, always ready for you. You are loved, exactly as you are. Love doesn’t make distinctions and, like the sun, shines for everybody, including you. When you feel unlovable, it is because at that moment you cannot connect with Love. The paradox is that you won’t be able to receive Love from others until you can connect with the Love for yourself.
Love starts within you. Appreciation for who you are, gratitude for all you have received, and self-reflection on your qualities and gifts will help you reopen the door of your heart and Love fully, totally, unconditionally.
Love is the key to resolving any issue or challenge you have. Allow Love to guide your life. When you are afraid, connect with Love and you will feel powerful. When you feel sad, share your Love with others and you will feel an instant shift. When you feel unlovable or rejected, pause, and look for Love within yourself, this is true Love. When you are in pain, send some Love to the part of yourself that is aching and take proper care of it.
Love can never hurt you or disappoint you. Maybe your heart was broken or is aching right now, but that’s not Love’s fault. Love is the healing force that will help it heal it. If a relationship, of any kind, doesn’t work the way you want, don’t get angry, disappointed, or sad, and put more Love into it.
Love is the solution, not the problem. Once you can Love someone in spite of who they are, then you can leave the relationship without any loose ends or unfinished business. Love, and forgiveness, are what cures all, the Love for yourself.
Love will never leave you because it lives within you. Love is energy and, like any other energy, it cannot be destroyed, only transformed. Your loved ones who are not with you anymore still Love you and take care of you. You may not feel it, but ancestors, many other beings, and loved ones who passed away, are there for you. They are still alive in your heart and in all the Love you shared. Love will never abandon you because it is eternal. Believe in Love!
"Love is a state of being. Your Love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it,
and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form"
Nowadays a lot of us around the world may feel insecurity, uncertainty, or frustration with the events we are living, and this is testing our resilience. Reality is different, our world is not the same. This is the moment when you will discover if you can easily adjust to change.
Resilience is accepting your reality and trying to make the best out of it. It is about your capacity to adapt and your resourcefulness. It is about cultivating your capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. I believe you have all of these in yourself, that you are resilient.
Connect with your strength. Walk side to side with fear. You may feel not capable, but I can assure you that you can go through this and much more, and that you will overcome whatever you fear right now. You don’t need to have everything figured out or to be fearless, to find the courage within yourself. You should connect with the inner resources that you have, that are dormant until you really need them. You have gone through other difficult moments and crisis, and here you are. You will survive!
You have an inner coach, a wise advisor inside of yourself. A part of you that is there, ready to lift you up and help you rise. A side that you may not have discovered yet if you haven’t been in serious difficulties before. If you look within, you will discover that inside of you there lives a resilient genius, that shows up to help you when you need it the most, that can offer you perspective, solutions, and connects you with the necessary self-confidence to face adversity. This inner coach is connected to the unlimited resources that the Universe can provide you, if you ask for them and allow yourself to receive.
Resilience is not about being tough, wearing an armor, and acting like a warrior. Don’t be afraid of showing vulnerability. Your strength also resides in your capability to ask for help, to surrender to the circumstances, and to trust that you will be guided, step by step, to the best possible outcome.
You don’t need to be a hero, you just need to know that there is a power within you that will never abandon you, no matter what is happening, and will allow you to persevere and endure in spite of the obstacles. This power that will support you is connected to the higher realms where all the information, guidance, and help you need, is available.
Life is full of challenges, but they are not problems or misfortunes, they offer you the opportunity to evolve, change, and improve yourself by developing new resources. If you remain focused, aware, and calm, you will be able to keep control in any situation, because you will realize that you can only control yourself, not the circumstances around you.
If you want to be more resilient, practice looking at yourself mindfully, observing your thoughts and emotional reactions, and what is happening around you that you might be absorbing. Changing the perspective around a situation, not labeling it, and not fighting with it, changes your reality.
Sometimes what you need is to let go, to release, to take a deep breath and to tell yourself: “It is going to be ok.” Once you are able to feel this in your heart, things start happening, suddenly all looks totally different, and you connect with life again, and feel powerful enough to go through whatever you need to go.
"Like tiny seeds with potent power to push through tough ground and become mighty trees,
we hold innate reserves of unimaginable strength. We are resilient"
We spend so much time fighting reality, talking about it, and criticizing it when we do not like it. There is not only one reality, there are many, as many as people in the world. We see reality as we are, not as it is. We look at the world through our senses, values, philosophy of life, culture, upbringing, education… We judge our life and decide whether it is good or bad.
The truth is that we cannot change the reality that others see, we can only change ourselves and our approach to what we experience and witness. If instead of trying to avoid what is happening we learn how to be with it, how to accept what is happening without losing our balance and alignment, we will gain a lot of wellbeing and joy.
It is difficult to be present and aware when you face a reality that scares you, that you cannot control, that is uncertain. I know. But I am sure you can find the strength within yourself to face it as it is. You are more resilient than you imagine. You can feel and be vulnerable. Never ignore your feelings, because they will offer you the necessary information to be able to do what is best for you.
Investing more energy fighting with life or worrying about it will not solve anything, just the opposite. All the energy you have should be devoted to seeking solutions, not to look at the problems. Go within and you will find clarity. Do nothing and you will create space to receive guidance. Relax and rest and you will have more energy to face anything life sends your way.
Reality is not good or bad, it just is. You cannot run away from it. But you can invest in creating a new reality; one you like, one that is peaceful, loving, and where good things happen. This reality starts with you. You can plant the seeds of the reality you want to live in and see it blossom. You will do it with your daily behavior, with your example, with your good intentions and acts of Love, with your authenticity and your desire to create a better life for everyone, not only for you.
There is always something good to appreciate, even in a life that you don’t like. The world is full of wonders and beautiful things that are not perceived because maybe we pay more attention to the negative things that we experience. Appreciate those things that are important for you, those that you don’t want to lose, and be grateful for them. Focus all your attention on what matters, because this is the way you create a new reality. With the power of your intention and Love.
"Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and
emotion will one day become a reality"
It seems normal to be looking for potential danger and avoiding risks, and it is a survival mechanism that we all have installed in our systems, but it is not all that great if you want to have a joyful life. It is so easy to see what is lacking, to see what you don’t have, or to focus on what is waiting to be solved, that you may forget to focus on what works and on what you have right now.
When your mind is busy looking for solutions to existent (and inexistent) problems, and always focusing on what can go wrong, you energetically live in a world of difficulties and negativity, always having to solve something and unable to relax and enjoy the present moment.
Reality shows us that we can find many problems every day to keep us terribly busy. But how you look at your problems determines your ability to overcome them. Are your problems obstacles, challenges, opportunities to grow, situations that will pass, or something you will be helped with or guided to resolve? Do you feel you have the power to overcome them?
One of the things that will help you to feel more confident and to find the strength you need to overcome any situation in life, is to focus on what is working, in the positive, in what you have in your life. Reflect on all those great things you don’t value or even notice.
Appreciate what you have, not only in the material world, like a safe place to live in, but also the Love and the good things you receive every day. The sunrise, the trees, the breeze in your face, the song of a bird, a nice view or landscape, a good meal, the way your pet shows you Love, the hug or the smile of a loved one… Don’t wait until you lose something to see how important it was. Value and enjoy every bit of life.
In the middle of the chaos, illness, fear, and crisis, realize that you are alive (if you are reading this), and that this is a wonderful thing to celebrate. While there is life there is hope. You may feel down, or maybe you are in a difficult situation, but you won’t solve this by obsessively thinking about it.
The solution can be a shift in your perspective of life and in your openness to the opportunities it can bring you. When you disconnect from the problems, you can find a solution, for instance in the morning after a good night of sleep. When you are relaxed and still, you can receive the information you need. When you let go of stress and stop living in survival mode, you can see things differently and create something new.
Count your blessings, and be grateful for them. See what is working in your life and appreciate it daily. You will bring more of it into your existence. Rely on the Universe, and its immense power to support you. And learn how to use the great power your mind has to configure your reality. Create a world where there is goodness, kindness, generosity, understanding, forgiveness, and Love, starting with Love for yourself. It is your world, a world of your design, you have to live in it, and you can invite others to join you there.
"A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances
instead of your circumstances having power over you"
You have dreams, desires, things you want to do, to resolve, or to achieve. You want to fulfill all of it, but sometimes when you think about taking action, it may feel like hiking to the top of a mountain. Thoughts such as ‘I am not capable’, ‘I don’t know how to do it’, or ‘it will take a long time or too much effort’, take you further and further away from your goals. But when you take action, things become easier and happen faster than you imagine, and you realize that the process was more challenging in your imagination than in reality.
Why then you do not do what you want to do or procrastinate? One of the reasons for not achieving your goals is the lack of clarity. You may think that you need to figure out the whole thing by yourself before even starting to take a baby step, but the most important thing is to start moving. Clarity may arrive while you move towards your objective when you have taken certain steps.
It is important to know how to deal with uncertainty without feeling stuck. It is ok not to know at the moment how things will unfold, or what the steps are, but this should not be a reason to keep yourself in the same place and not to move forward. The unknown may reserve for you great things and unexpected gifts that you will only receive when you start your journey.
It is difficult to make things happen if you don’t put all your attention and intention on them. Maybe you experience an inner conflict; you want to do something and you do not want to do it at the same time. There is a part of you that wants to and another part that holds you back, finding reasons why you should give up, even before you start. This is the perfect soil for self-doubt. It creates suffering to have ideas and not to put them into practice. Fear does this to you. It paralyzes you and creates difficulties even before you start, but you know what? You are more powerful than your fear!
You need to be kind with yourself and do some inner research about the reasons why you stop yourself from doing something you want to do which is important for you. You may feel unprepared, that it is too risky, or that it is not the right moment to take action. Whatever the thoughts are that hold you back, you better identify and challenge each one of them. At least you will resolve the conflict within yourself, and figure out if you are creating a list of good excuses for not taking action, or what you need to resolve in order to start moving ahead.
Lack of time or resources are the most used reasons for not taking any action. Sometimes they are real, and there is nothing you can do except wait until the right time arrives. But in so many cases, what you need is what I have mentioned above. Take some action, find out information, and start putting all your energy into it. Let go of the self-doubt and lack of clarity, and connect with your inner confidence. If the desire is within you, if the idea came through you, there must be a reason.
Find out how you can transform this idea, project, or change in your life into a reality. Think about how you can do it, and let go of what stops you. Discover your strengths and capabilities to do it. Allow yourself to be helped. Be open and ready because help can come in unexpected ways. Trust that you are not alone and that you are always guided.
The Love for yourself, for your life, and for what you want to do, will allow you to transform challenges into learning experiences that will help you to continue your journey. The further you go, the more confident you will feel about yourself and what you want. Take the first step, whatever it is, and ask for guidance. Take one more, and see how you feel. Before you realize it, you will be at the top of the mountain, and it does not matter what you have achieved, what is important is that you did it.
"The time for action is now. It's never too late to do something"
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Keep your heart open. Pay attention to be sure you are not withholding your Love. Express it freely and totally. No matter what is happening in the world, you can always be loving. Love is now more necessary than ever. Love brings more Love. Be ready to receive it.
There are so many ways to demonstrate Love to everyone through simple acts of Love. Wish a good day, smile frequently, and pay special attention to being kind to all the people you meet today, online or in person. Find opportunities to express your Love.
Awake the Love within you and allow it to flow like a river. Appreciate every loving moment you witness. It doesn’t matter if you give or receive the Love, or if you recognize it in a song or a movie. Look for it. Become aware of its existence and celebrate it. Don’t take it for granted.
Devote energy to connect with Love during your day. Love consciously, with intention, being present, and feeling connected with your heart. Love is so precious, pay enough attention to it. Cultivate it in your life passionately.
You may have closed your heart to protect yourself, maybe you have been hurt in the past, or you are afraid to reopen old wounds. Don’t avoid the suffering or live in the world of thought, disconnected from your feelings. Name your feelings and accept them. Once you have recognized how you feel, allow it to be, don’t reject it, and nurture yourself.
An open heart is the one that can release all the pain and become free to Love. Let go of anything that is not allowing you to give or receive Love. Release the suffering, the pain, the guilt, the sadness... We accumulate so much at an emotional level and we need to release. Show yourself tenderness. Compassion for your own suffering can only come from a warm heart, one with its doors open.
Anything can open your heart. Yesterday I saw a movie called Hachi. It is a beautiful true story about a dog who had a special bond with his master who found him. In the middle of the movie I decided to stop watching it and I went to bed fearing that something would happen to the dog. I didn’t want to suffer. But I was wrong, something happened to its owner. When he died, the dog waited for him at the station, where he greeted him daily, every day, for the next 10 years. Today I saw the end and I cried a lot.
My heart was really touched and it is more open than before. You cannot feel great joy if you are not able to feel the deepest pain. Life is full of experiences, and we must welcome all of them. This is the moment to be kind, to be loving towards yourself. If you cannot connect with the Love within yourself, connect with the Love for your children, pet, friend, partner, or any spiritual being. Love is Love, and it is always there for you.
“When our heart is open, everything we do becomes Love”
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.