Have you ever asked yourself who you are? If I have to answer this question, I will say things like I am a woman, a pet parent, a coach, a business owner, a foodie, I was born in Spain, and many other things. But these things are not my authentic self. They are labels we use in the world to define groups of people. But when I put aside my roles and circumstances, what is left is who I really am. I am a being full of loving energy, connected to the Source and all beings I share the Earth with.
You may spend 24 hours a day with yourself, but you may have forgotten who you truly are and how valuable your existence is. Or you may never have gotten intimate with yourself, and now have an opportunity to explore yourself. It is difficult to Love someone you don’t know. Loving yourself is possible when you know who you are and you appreciate yourself as you are. You must dig deeper than the external definitions to understand and know yourself better. Don’t be afraid to look within. You will discover a lot of valuable and incredible things about you.
What you need to know yourself better is self-reflection. To observe yourself from a mindful perspective without judgment. If you look at yourself and your life, you will be able to identify what matters to you, what your priorities are, what makes you feel joyful and alive, what you Love, what your gifts and talents are, what are you passionate about and you desire, what you bring to this Universe, and how your Love transforms the lives of others.
If you pay attention to yourself, you will also become aware of patterns of thought or behavior that you may be unaware of, and that perhaps do not support you now, and the tendencies, habits, or limitations you may be imposing on yourself. Once you have a clear idea of who you are, you can celebrate your goodness and focus your efforts on becoming a better version of yourself as well. There is always room for transformation.
Getting to know yourself is a process, and it takes time. It requires self-honesty and accepting parts of yourself and behaviors you may not be proud of. Self-acceptance is a key element of Self-Love. Don’t try to know yourself better with the intention of fixing yourself by finding all your flaws and weaknesses; do it to connect with your worth, which is your birthright, and to understand the potential within you that you can develop.
Knowing yourself has many benefits, such as more appreciation for who you are and a higher level of self-worth. You will discover that you are important just because you exist. You will be able to relax more when you comprehend that you don’t need to demonstrate your value because you already have it, and you only need to get in touch with it. You will embody a higher level of confidence and a sense of being comfortable in your own skin.
When you know yourself, you are more fulfilled and live more authentically because you feel free to be you and, as a result, you compare yourself less with others and stop asking for external validation. You become your own master. When you live in alignment with who you are, you find fewer contradictions and encounter a sense of coherence and meaning in your life. You will learn all these and much more if you decide to embark on the journey of discovering and embracing yourself. Are you ready to find your true self?
“People think that what’s important is that the world sees them, understands them, values them. That’s not what’s important. What’s important is that
you see yourself, you understand yourself, and that you value yourself”
C. JoyBell C.
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.