We spend so much time fighting reality, talking about it, and criticizing it when we do not like it. There is not only one reality, there are many, as many as people in the world. We see reality as we are, not as it is. We look at the world through our senses, values, philosophy of life, culture, upbringing, education… We judge our life and decide whether it is good or bad.
The truth is that we cannot change the reality that others see, we can only change ourselves and our approach to what we experience and witness. If instead of trying to avoid what is happening we learn how to be with it, how to accept what is happening without losing our balance and alignment, we will gain a lot of wellbeing and joy.
It is difficult to be present and aware when you face a reality that scares you, that you cannot control, that is uncertain. I know. But I am sure you can find the strength within yourself to face it as it is. You are more resilient than you imagine. You can feel and be vulnerable. Never ignore your feelings, because they will offer you the necessary information to be able to do what is best for you.
Investing more energy fighting with life or worrying about it will not solve anything, just the opposite. All the energy you have should be devoted to seeking solutions, not to look at the problems. Go within and you will find clarity. Do nothing and you will create space to receive guidance. Relax and rest and you will have more energy to face anything life sends your way.
Reality is not good or bad, it just is. You cannot run away from it. But you can invest in creating a new reality; one you like, one that is peaceful, loving, and where good things happen. This reality starts with you. You can plant the seeds of the reality you want to live in and see it blossom. You will do it with your daily behavior, with your example, with your good intentions and acts of Love, with your authenticity and your desire to create a better life for everyone, not only for you.
There is always something good to appreciate, even in a life that you don’t like. The world is full of wonders and beautiful things that are not perceived because maybe we pay more attention to the negative things that we experience. Appreciate those things that are important for you, those that you don’t want to lose, and be grateful for them. Focus all your attention on what matters, because this is the way you create a new reality. With the power of your intention and Love.
"Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and
emotion will one day become a reality"
The end of the year is here. Maybe you see your life passing year by year. And this one is almost finished. Humans live in a linear idea of time. There is a past, a present and a future. But life can only be lived in the present. You can only appreciate your life and all its moments if you are able to be there, with 100% of your energy involved.
Think about the last time you were ‘in the moment’. If you have children and also work, your mind can be scattered between the tons of things you have to do for your family, appointments, clients, and you may feel that you cannot survive without multitasking. OOr maybe you carry your work home, your clients, the worry about finances, the multitude of emails to answer... Can you be present with all of these in your mind? Yes, you can.
When the New Year starts, or right away if you want to, think differently about your life. See it as a collection of moments, all of them so precious, that you don’t want to miss any of them. It is like watching a very good movie without commercials. It is so good, that you don’t want to leave the room to go to the bathroom, because you don’t want to miss an important scene or dialogue. It is so interesting, that you cannot find a boring moment to disconnect from the movie.
This is the movie of your life. Make it as interesting as any of the best movies you have seen. Where the main character takes any necessary risks to be happy, where they overcome any past hurt, where they face challenges as a hero and not as a victim. Be the protagonist of the movie, not the secondary actor or actress. You write the script, with every thought, word and action, with your energy. It is your life, and only you can make it worth living.
Life is a process and it is also instantaneous change. One day your partner leaves you, and another day you find your Soul Mate, one day you get fired, and another day you get the job of your dreams. Time is passing... tic, tac, tic, tac. Can you hear the clock? You should not listen to it. Because the most wonderful secret of life is that time does not exist... it is a human conception. Everything is happening in a continuous now. Your essence is eternal. You have had so many lifetimes before, and you will have many more. Take the pressure off yourself, and live your life, and your New Year, to the fullest.
"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner"
Sidonie Gabrielle Colette
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.