A way to Love yourself more is to have self-awareness, to understand who you are. It is difficult to Love someone that you don't know. What do you really know about yourself? Maybe not so much. You have an image about yourself that you present to the world, you have certain beliefs about who you are, and you know facts of your life, your story and memories but, who you are really?
You can know more about yourself in so many different ways. You can ask your loved ones what your best qualities are, do an assessment, ask an astrologer to do the interpretation of your birth chart, you can learn to interpret your dreams (which contain important information for you), you can register in a class of self-development, meditate, journal, do inner work of any kind... there are so many different ways to gain self-awareness, and all of them require that you become interested in knowing who is behind your body and mind.
Invest time in yourself to discovering more about you. Look at yourself with new eyes. Find out and appreciate all the good attributes you have. Find out what your gifts are. See what you like about yourself. Reconnect with what makes you feel passionate. You are not defined by your achievements, your success, or the roles that you play in life. You are much more than you think you are. There is so much to discover about yourself. To get to know you, you will have to spend time with yourself.
Do you need more ideas to discover yourself? Try new things and see what your reactions are. Test yourself. Do something you are afraid of. Try something you believe you cannot do. Experiment. Do things in a different way. Try new kinds of foods. Practice a sport that you have never practiced before. Do an activity you have never tried. Register in a class to learn something. Push your boundaries. Explore new avenues. Go to different places. Expand your horizons. Talk with someone you don't know. It does not matter what you do, what is important is that you do something different, new, or unknown, and you will see a new you emerging.
Everything you try will provide you with new information about yourself. You will enrich yourself with different experiences. Maybe you will change the limiting beliefs that you have about what you can or cannot do. You will go out of your comfort zone. You will meet new people and with them, new ways of being. Your life and surroundings will change, and you will change too. You will gain confidence and be more open minded, or maybe less judgmental with yourself. You will have fun and enjoy life. You will spend 24 hours a day with yourself for the rest of your life, so it would be a good idea to know yourself better and to have a wonderful relationship with yourself, don't you think?
"There is more to all of us than we realize. Life is so much bigger, grander, higher, and wider than we allow ourselves to think. We are capable of so much more than we allow ourselves to believe"
The end of the year is here. Maybe you see your life passing year by year. And this one is almost finished. Humans live in a linear idea of time. There is a past, a present and a future. But life can only be lived in the present. You can only appreciate your life and all its moments if you are able to be there, with 100% of your energy involved.
Think about the last time you were ‘in the moment’. If you have children and also work, your mind can be scattered between the tons of things you have to do for your family, appointments, clients, and you may feel that you cannot survive without multitasking. OOr maybe you carry your work home, your clients, the worry about finances, the multitude of emails to answer... Can you be present with all of these in your mind? Yes, you can.
When the New Year starts, or right away if you want to, think differently about your life. See it as a collection of moments, all of them so precious, that you don’t want to miss any of them. It is like watching a very good movie without commercials. It is so good, that you don’t want to leave the room to go to the bathroom, because you don’t want to miss an important scene or dialogue. It is so interesting, that you cannot find a boring moment to disconnect from the movie.
This is the movie of your life. Make it as interesting as any of the best movies you have seen. Where the main character takes any necessary risks to be happy, where they overcome any past hurt, where they face challenges as a hero and not as a victim. Be the protagonist of the movie, not the secondary actor or actress. You write the script, with every thought, word and action, with your energy. It is your life, and only you can make it worth living.
Life is a process and it is also instantaneous change. One day your partner leaves you, and another day you find your Soul Mate, one day you get fired, and another day you get the job of your dreams. Time is passing... tic, tac, tic, tac. Can you hear the clock? You should not listen to it. Because the most wonderful secret of life is that time does not exist... it is a human conception. Everything is happening in a continuous now. Your essence is eternal. You have had so many lifetimes before, and you will have many more. Take the pressure off yourself, and live your life, and your New Year, to the fullest.
"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner"
Sidonie Gabrielle Colette
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.