Life is a collection of moments, and every one of them counts. The reality is that we are not present in many moments of our lives. Our body is in one place and our mind in another. We get so busy that we go from one thing to another. We spend much of our time in the world of thoughts, not present where we are and with whom we share the moment. What happens with all those moments we ignore? We lose them. They will never return. They are unappreciated moments. But we can choose to be present in every moment of our life.
We rush through life, and we forget to enjoy its moments. We appreciate the big things and important occasions, but do we live for every moment? I think we don't. We miss many moments every day. We give them away in worry, preoccupation, or thinking about what we don't want or dislike. We become afraid of what can happen, and we leave the present moment to go to another place we call the future and imagine it in all detail. Or we entertain ourselves with the stories of the past.
Sometimes, we are so exhausted that we allow the moments to pass. We disconnect from life, and we stop living life, which is happening at this very moment. We forget that time passes. I am not saying this to pressure you —just the opposite. Become aware and don't lose any more seconds of your life.
You have the power to focus on the thoughts and beliefs you want. Be mindful of what is happening in your inner reality as much as around you. Decide what is essential and cultivate it in your life. Cultivate joy to experience joyful moments. Focus on inner peace to have relaxing moments. Invite Love into your life if you want to live loving moments.
All the pressure we put on ourselves doesn't allow us to live the moment as it is. We have plans, ideas, goals, responsibilities. We cannot let them go because we believe that accomplishing all these things is of the utmost importance. But what if the purpose of life is to enjoy every inch of it to the fullest? Focus on being and savoring the moment with awareness, realizing that every moment of life is a miracle, and looking at yourself and the world with a sense of wonder. We should reserve some time in our existence for 'not doing' but simply 'being.'
I am sure you remember the moments of your life that mattered. But every moment could matter independently of where or with whom you are, and what you are doing. Don't label a moment as good or bad; live it. Don't procrastinate your happiness waiting for the good moments. You can transform all moments into good moments if you want. It all depends on your attitude towards the moment, not the moment itself. You can care about each moment as your creation. You are the architect of your life, and you have the power to design your moments.
Experience every second of the life you have with all your being. Don't reject any life experience because it is not how you want it to be, or what you would have chosen. Don't get angry with yourself for not being where you want to be. Avoid stressing yourself because things are not how they should be. You are alive to Love fully and to share moments with others. Take time to enjoy the pleasurable moments life on Earth offers.
Remember that this moment can be joyful, and the following one, and the one after. When you see your reality full of opportunities for Love and joy, it gets transformed. Nothing has to be perfect for you to enjoy this moment. It is the loving way you look at it that makes it perfect. Let's start enjoying moments!
"The way to develop the habit of savoring is to pause when something is beautiful and good and catches our attention - the sound of rain, the look of the night sky - the glow in a child's eyes, or when we witness some kindness.
Pause... then totally immerse in the experience of savoring it"
Let go of the need to control every aspect of your life. Allow your life to unfold. Release your expectations, and focus on the larger vision of your existence. Let go of your life’s plan and consider that maybe the Universe can create a plan that is better than yours.
You don’t need to be perfect, and you cannot expect life and others to be. But you can rely on the idea that things are unfolding perfectly in your life. No matter what it looks like, they truly are. Let go of your tendency to worry excessively. It is not helping you to achieve your goals. It is doing just the opposite. It is not allowing you to enjoy the journey, to savor the waiting.
Don’t worry about making mistakes. Don’t suffer in anticipation of errors. Follow your inner wisdom and allow yourself to be guided by the Universe. Tune into your intuition. Don’t judge the result of your actions as right or wrong, good or bad, just observe in the present moment. Don’t force anything. Life becomes easy when you are in alignment with life’s natural timing.
Live your life without the need of having everything in perfect order and exactly the way it is designed in your plan. Leave some room for the unexpected, don’t be rigid. Don’t analyze everything, don’t be anxious. It is good to have a plan to arrive where you want to go, but you don’t need to know exactly how to arrive there. Focus instead on getting clarity about what you want to happen in your life, the big picture.
Don’t think about what can go wrong, don’t worry about what might happen in the future. Instead, expect the best to come into your life. Use all your energy to visualize the positive results of your actions. Imagine and feel that what you want to achieve has already happened. Live now as you want to live your life in the future. Engage all your energy in this process.
Have a positive attitude. Love your life and be grateful for what you have. Rely on yourself and in the Universe. Feel confident and safe. Life has many blessings for you. The future is yours, an unfolding of the positive and magnificent present. You must believe it!
"As someone who has faced as much disappointment as most people, I've come to trust not
that events will always unfold exactly as I want, but that I will be fine either way"
A way to Love yourself more is to have self-awareness, to understand who you are. It is difficult to Love someone that you don't know. What do you really know about yourself? Maybe not so much. You have an image about yourself that you present to the world, you have certain beliefs about who you are, and you know facts of your life, your story and memories but, who you are really?
You can know more about yourself in so many different ways. You can ask your loved ones what your best qualities are, do an assessment, ask an astrologer to do the interpretation of your birth chart, you can learn to interpret your dreams (which contain important information for you), you can register in a class of self-development, meditate, journal, do inner work of any kind... there are so many different ways to gain self-awareness, and all of them require that you become interested in knowing who is behind your body and mind.
Invest time in yourself to discovering more about you. Look at yourself with new eyes. Find out and appreciate all the good attributes you have. Find out what your gifts are. See what you like about yourself. Reconnect with what makes you feel passionate. You are not defined by your achievements, your success, or the roles that you play in life. You are much more than you think you are. There is so much to discover about yourself. To get to know you, you will have to spend time with yourself.
Do you need more ideas to discover yourself? Try new things and see what your reactions are. Test yourself. Do something you are afraid of. Try something you believe you cannot do. Experiment. Do things in a different way. Try new kinds of foods. Practice a sport that you have never practiced before. Do an activity you have never tried. Register in a class to learn something. Push your boundaries. Explore new avenues. Go to different places. Expand your horizons. Talk with someone you don't know. It does not matter what you do, what is important is that you do something different, new, or unknown, and you will see a new you emerging.
Everything you try will provide you with new information about yourself. You will enrich yourself with different experiences. Maybe you will change the limiting beliefs that you have about what you can or cannot do. You will go out of your comfort zone. You will meet new people and with them, new ways of being. Your life and surroundings will change, and you will change too. You will gain confidence and be more open minded, or maybe less judgmental with yourself. You will have fun and enjoy life. You will spend 24 hours a day with yourself for the rest of your life, so it would be a good idea to know yourself better and to have a wonderful relationship with yourself, don't you think?
"There is more to all of us than we realize. Life is so much bigger, grander, higher, and wider than we allow ourselves to think. We are capable of so much more than we allow ourselves to believe"
The end of the year is here. Maybe you see your life passing year by year. And this one is almost finished. Humans live in a linear idea of time. There is a past, a present and a future. But life can only be lived in the present. You can only appreciate your life and all its moments if you are able to be there, with 100% of your energy involved.
Think about the last time you were ‘in the moment’. If you have children and also work, your mind can be scattered between the tons of things you have to do for your family, appointments, clients, and you may feel that you cannot survive without multitasking. OOr maybe you carry your work home, your clients, the worry about finances, the multitude of emails to answer... Can you be present with all of these in your mind? Yes, you can.
When the New Year starts, or right away if you want to, think differently about your life. See it as a collection of moments, all of them so precious, that you don’t want to miss any of them. It is like watching a very good movie without commercials. It is so good, that you don’t want to leave the room to go to the bathroom, because you don’t want to miss an important scene or dialogue. It is so interesting, that you cannot find a boring moment to disconnect from the movie.
This is the movie of your life. Make it as interesting as any of the best movies you have seen. Where the main character takes any necessary risks to be happy, where they overcome any past hurt, where they face challenges as a hero and not as a victim. Be the protagonist of the movie, not the secondary actor or actress. You write the script, with every thought, word and action, with your energy. It is your life, and only you can make it worth living.
Life is a process and it is also instantaneous change. One day your partner leaves you, and another day you find your Soul Mate, one day you get fired, and another day you get the job of your dreams. Time is passing... tic, tac, tic, tac. Can you hear the clock? You should not listen to it. Because the most wonderful secret of life is that time does not exist... it is a human conception. Everything is happening in a continuous now. Your essence is eternal. You have had so many lifetimes before, and you will have many more. Take the pressure off yourself, and live your life, and your New Year, to the fullest.
"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner"
Sidonie Gabrielle Colette
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.