Human beings are born with a desire to share Love with others. Love is an energy that can't be controlled or managed; it must flow. For this flow to happen, it is necessary that we give and receive Love. It feels good to give Love to others; your heart connects with all you genuinely Love, and it opens up and transmits this energy. But what about receiving Love? It seems that we have more difficulty to receive than to give Love.
There are moments in a person's life when Love is what they want the most but cannot feel. When there is no flow, no energy, the heart closes; nothing goes in or out. You may stop giving or receiving Love or both. You may have been disappointed, rejected, betrayed, and, as a protection mechanism, you have put your heart in a castle with thick walls to protect yourself from others who you think can hurt you again. You guard your heart because you are wounded.
You may believe that this is the best solution to avoid suffering, but what you did was put your heart in the castle's prison and throw the key away. Now your heart is protected but unable to express its precious energy of Love. Time passes, and you may decide to put the walls down and start allowing the heart to open again. But some individuals who suffered a deep wound stop trusting Love forever.
Love will never betray or abandon you. A human being may, but Love will always be with you because it is the energy that runs through you. It is your real essence. You have plenty of Love within you and may be unaware of it. You are a source of Love. When you truly learn to Love yourself, you understand this and stop looking for Love outside of yourself. If you have plenty of Love, you can share it with others. You not only give but also learn to receive, recognize, and appreciate all the Love shown to you.
Love comes in many forms: support, guidance, compliments, smiles, kisses, hugs, presents, resources, service, words of encouragement, empowerment, kind acts, a bouquet, a home-cooked meal… and many others. Very often, we take Love for granted. Sometimes, we don't value the Love we receive until we lose it. Pay attention to the Love that you get every day. It is for you, and it is valuable and deserves to be acknowledged.
The more Love you feel for yourself, the more you can share Love with others without asking anything in return for your Love. We have been educated in a system focused on giving Love; others go first. When we are born, we are great givers of Love, but during childhood, we start believing that we must give Love to receive it. Very early in life, you learn conditional Love. That's not true Love. You can give the Love you have cultivated to anyone or anything you want, just because you decide to do it, regardless of who the other is or if they deserve to be loved. This is unconditional Love.
Today, look around you and appreciate all the gifts of Love you have. They not only come from other human beings. Look at your pet and the Love it gives you, the plants in your home and garden that provide you with air, flowers, and fruits, or the sun that rises to allow you to enjoy a new day, light, and life. Appreciate the whole Universe around you.
Be present enough to experience all the Love that comes your way each day. Receive and appreciate it. If you don't see Love around you, create it yourself. Bring the Love you are and have to Earth. This planet will be a different, more loving place just because you did. This is the best contribution to humanity and the Universe you can make. As an ambassador of Love, I am here to remind you that you are loved as you are. Can you receive these loving words?
"Not allowing ourselves to be congratulated, celebrated, appreciated, nourished, or loved by people and events outside ourselves is a
defense designed to protect us from psychic pain. Barriers to love are
erected in our unconscious as it acts on behalf of our own survival"
Judith Costa is a Life and Love Coach, Seminar Leader, Writer and Speaker. She has a Masters degree in Psychology & Psychotherapy and an MBA. She helps her clients to overcome their blocks to Love, to Love themselves and to manifest the relationship they want.